In 2015, Rita’s mom, Patricia, started experiencing slurred speech and progressive weakness. Living in Hawaii while her children were in the mainland, Patricia kept her health concerns to herself. When she could no longer keep it a secret, her disability had gone much further along.  When they learned, Rita and her siblings flailed around in shock. Eventually, they were able to negotiate among themselves the best way they could care for Mom, considering many factors, not the least of which…